Chapter 46: Dr. Laura Markham on prioritizing presence to parent peacefully

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Laura and me on her front stoop!

Hey everybody,

Today we are nestled into a beautiful century-old brownstone in Park Slope, Brooklyn with the amazing Dr. Laura Markham, a preacher of love, letting love in, sending love out, and using that as a way to deepen our connection with ourselves and our children.

Who is Dr. Laura Markham?

She’s a Columbia-trained clinical psychologist, founder and editor at AhaParenting.com, author of three parenting books including my favorite Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids, a parenting expert for many websites, and a life-changer for many, many families including mine. (You’ll hear what my wife Leslie thinks at the beginning of this chapter!) Dr. Laura Markham translates proven science into practical and simple solutions to live an intentional life.

So in chapter 46, let’s stop and pause and choose how we respond to help drive a movement towards love and compassion. I partly resonate so deeply with Dr. Laura Markham’s work, because I feel like the higher place she’s leading us towards is also the same place I want 3 Books to lead us toward.

In this chapter, we chat about the complexities of parenting and how we can be more present as parents. Dr. Laura Markham shares many valuable insights, from communicating through play, navigating our own traumas, mastering the skill of sending love to strangers, and how we need to develop a closer relationship with death.

And, of course, we talk about Dr. Laura Markham’s 3 most formative books.

Let’s go!

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What You'll Learn:

• How can we heal our inner trauma first so we don’t project that onto our children?

• How is sitting in stillness an important key to ‘getting things done’? 

• Why do we need to bring awareness to our pain?

• Why do we project our emotions and our pain onto the people we love?

• How has our understanding of mental illness progressed over history, and where do we need to go from here?

• How can you make death your peer instead of your persecutor?

notable quotes from Dr. laura markham:

“You don’t have to be perfect. Children will come out fine without us being perfect. But we do need to be more present.” @DrLauraMarkham #3bookspodcast

 “I think all of us have more love coming to us than we let in. So one of the things that serves us is to let ourselves be touched, not say ‘oh I don’t deserve that.’” @DrLauraMarkham #3bookspodcast

“Any pain that we can’t deal with -- what will happen to that pain if we don’t take responsibility for our actions? We take that pain out on somebody else.” @DrLauraMarkham #3bookspodcast

“If we can move ourselves over and over again to a state of love, then we end up attracting love from the environment.” @DrLauraMarkham #3bookspodcast

CONNECT With Laura:

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Resources Mentioned:

• Dr. Laura’s Blog

• Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham

• Salem Witch Trials

• Highly Sensitive People 

• Ram Dass

• Chapter 40 with Pete Holmes

• Be Here Now by Ram Dass

• Dr. Laura’s Podcast

• Ryan Holiday

• The Tim Ferriss Show

• Stoicism

• Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham

• Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook by Dr. Laura Markham

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